LET'S TALK EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL

Have you ever been told you are tripping because you called out on a friend or a family member who was crossing your lane? 

Or have you experienced a friend or family member who does you shit but instead of apologizing he/she starts doing things to please you?

That's emotional blackmail.

Emotional blackmail can be well defined as the act of cleaning up a mess with good deeds or words to make it look like the previous harm caused was a normal occurance or it didn't even happen in the first place. 

In most cases, emotional blackmailing is done by the people close to us to make sure that the relationship between us and them is still intact. This can be well characterized by a friend who embarasses you in public and post your picture the next day with captions to prove that they love you and wish you well in life. It can also be characterized by a family member who abuses you and later calls tell you how you are a blessing to him/her. In other instances, it could be characterized by a mother who tells you mean things and later gives you gifts and money to cover up for the mean words.

Most times, the emotional blackmails don't come with apologies. They just come and the offender automatically assumes you'll get over the fact that you are hurt because they did something good to you thereafter. First of all, if you are wrong you are! Learn to apologize like normal a human being and allow things fold. You can't embarass someone in public and expect that after you have posted their picture telling them how you love them then it's done. That's not how it works, etiquette is taught in the syllabus for a reason. 

The worst case scenario is a friend who sees you are silent on him/her after they have disrespected you and come to your dms with "I miss you " et.al , you know what Snake? Miss me with your crap. Infact if you can, miss me harder. I miss you is not an apology. Or rather take your "I miss you" to hell. 

It's time people should grow up and learn how to stay put and not cross on the lanes of people they claim to care about. It may happen, people cross each other's lanes but if you do especially publicly, make a public apology to clear on your mess and get things moving. Don't start posting WhatsApp statuses calling yourself "the fake friend who was cut off". You were not a friend to begin with because if you were, you could have known how to behave.

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