If he's a good man, take care of him, good men are hard to come by, most men are heaps of wounded ego with nothing to offer but pride. If he can listen to your problems, gives you attention, spoil you with little gifts, make you feel super human, don't let him go because of little flaws. Flaws can be mended and mind you, good things got scars too. Being damaged inside doesn't guarantee that a man is bad for you. Men also come out of a relationship with heartbreaks, they are weak too, as much as they don't cry out in public and show a sign of weakness, they dye inside too.
Sometimes the best favour you could do to them is taking time to understand them. They may not be acting like your ex - treating you out and flowing you with gifts, it's not because they can't do that :they are insecure, they fear that you might just heartbreak them like their exes did. Some got commitment insecurities as well, make him understand that he can trust you to commit and invest on you. Take care of him, show him that you are different, pray for him, listen to his problems, advice him where you can, and crown him. Lots of men are wounded by their pasts but they try to hide it, you wouldn't realize this until you take time to understand them and listen to how their families mistreated them, how their past mistakes make them guilty e. t. c, as long as they are working on themselves, give him time . Sometimes they are just emotionally overwhelmed don't rush them into making delicate decisions like engagement, marriage, introduction to parents e. t. c it's his responsibility to decide on such issues but this doesn't mean you have to wait until forever. Waiting might be good but you must learn to know the limits of that, don't buy a newspaper in the evening it will be valueless.
As well, sometimes it's good to make his work easy. Don't assume, ask : ask whether the relationship is heading somewhere , whether he sees a future with you, whether he'd like to do what you like or be part of your life. If he's a mature man, he will draw his lines clear. Sometimes a no might not mean never but don't do the chasing, give him time but if it turns to wait forever, take your ass out.
Learning to understand your man will give you a better image of him thus helping you know how to love him hence a perfect relationship.
DISCLAIMER :
Some men pretend to be wounded yet they aren't. Remember I said ego wounds men more than anything else. Don't settle for a man who doesn't make you feel home. Don't allow him to abuse your feelings because his past mistreated him, you are only to help him heal from his past not bare pain because he's wounded. Learn to draw a line between reality and embarrassment.
Make relationships worthy.
@Mimi_Bree254
#Relationshipvibes
2017
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