ARGUMENTS AND RELATIONSHIPS..

Arguments are a normal thing in a relationship but people constantly overdo,  undermine or make them a big deal. If not careful, they can cause break ups and heartbreaks. So how do you go about them? It doesn't matter what you argue about, but it does matter how you argue about it. Here are the things you shouldn't do when an argument storms: 

Most people prefer going silent and running away from an argument but does that solve the problem? Nope. It's always said a problem shared is a problem solved. Instead of going silent when something bothers you, go ahead and speak it up. Say whatever you feel and let your other half react to it. By this,  you'll feel relieved and the problem will be solved. Speaking is the most mature way of sorting things out. Instead of cutting people off,  learn to speak out and solve problems maturely. 

Of course there's always the wrong person and the right one.  But what if you are right? Does that mean you label your partner? Blame games don't makes things right, instead, they lower other's ego hence creating discomfort and unnecessary guilt hence a strain on the relationship. Instead of pointing fingers, sit down and get solutions to your problems as a couple. 

Ego is a destructive thing. I know a lot of people who storm off when they feel they are right. But does that change the situation? I guess not. In my lifetime, I've never seen someone who ran away from a problem and made the problem solved. Be mature enough to stay and solve the issue. Listen to your partner's side of the story and get the solution. 

Venting into friends is another common characteristic of young couples especially ladies. You get into an argument, instead of getting facts, you run to friends for solace. One thing we all fail to understand is that most friends are not happy for our relationships. And what next?  They advice you to let go and soon you are hurt. Instead of consulting a group of friends with crazy mindsets, choose one or two mature friends that will help you organise your thoughts and get things sorted. 

The worst kind of people are the ones who attack others when an argument pops. Attacking inflicts pain and make others think that they are not good enough . Instead of attacking, restrain and handle things calmly. Don't harass loved ones.

Relationships are made and broken in the moment of tension, handle arguments maturely. 

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   2018