Parenthood just like any other factors affect how one grow and cope with life. Y'all thought boys with mommy issues are the hardest to date? Meet ladies with daddy issues.....
Daddy issues come as a result of a girl being "daddy's girl" , or leaving her life with an abusive dad or no dad at all. In all these cases, girls grow up with a certain perspective of life that makes them view a man in a certain way. Below are the forms of Daddy issues and how they affect a girl:
1. DADDY'S GIRL
Daddy's girl is a girl who grew up with the love of the dad and as the dad's favourite kid. In most cases, her daddy treated her with utmost love and created a "world" revolving just around her. This kind of up bringing is so realistic because that's what every dad ought to do to her daughter but somehow, it affects how they grow up to be. Most daddy's girls have unrealistic expectations of men based on their perception of a daddy. They want every guy they date to treat them not lesser than how their daddies treated them as they grew up. This is impossible since the men are not their daddy but they stick to the perception which makes most relationships to fail. Equally, they tend to look for a man "just like daddy" but do these men really exist? One thing these girls fail to notice is that daddy is daddy because someone was patient on him and so they made a family together which made him the daddy. If such ladies fail to get a realization that daddies cannot be found in any man, they keep jumping from one man to another but keep failing until life forces them to settle where they ought to have been.
2a.) ABSENT/ DEADBEAT DAD
Absent dads are ones who fail to take responsibility after impregnating a girl, dads who divorce push to leaving and ones that died early. If this ain't what affects a young girl most then I don't know what does. These girls grow up seeing their moms struggling to make ends meet and Keep asking themselves"what if dad was here to help?" Most of these girls grow up bitter with life and constantly have hatred for men. It's not a perspective they create out of fantasy but in most cases, lack and need pushes them to that point. Other cases, it's the bitter mom who inflicts an attitude of "men ain't shit" to them as they grow(especially on divorce and single mom cases).
2b.) DAD'S WHO DIE EARLY
On the other hand, dads who die early also create similar impacts (of 2a) on a girl's growth. Eventhough no one is to blame here, it really interferes with a girl's physiological perception of who a man should be.
As it is always said, "absence makes the heart fonder", these girls grow up with a lot of neediness( for either attention or material provision) and clinginess which they carry forward to the men they end up dating. In most cases, the girls are over insecure due to the fear of abandonment (which backs up to their childhood issues) and they often think negative of men.
All these daddy issues if not dealt with creats behaviours and expectations that create conflict with men and make dating such a "hard task". Having wrapped up expectations of men as well cause women to hurt or upset over normal male behaviours.
Any girl who realizes she has serious daddy issues should attempt to get a therapist who will take her through a realistic dating expectations and who a man is and how he should act before settling down with a man.
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Insight Credits: Dr Nic
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2019
Well spoken madam
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